Alleviation of your pain

Mich~

I was on MSN with a friend today, and she told me that she just came back from her Japan trip. From the exchange of words, I could sense that the short break did not alleviate much of her pain and misery from a failed relationship...:( She was hurt and sad, I know.

She broke up with her bf, after a long 8-year relationship. I think each couple would face their own set of problems inevitably, and they were no different either. Somehow, the long-time relationship did not help much in solving their problems, thus resulting in the breakup. Such a pity, but to tell the truth, deep inside me, I was glad they were no longer an item. In my opinion, there were too many pressing issues between them, with conflicting views from the two parties. I do not mean to be blunt, but I guess sometimes, it might be healthier to shorten the misery and lead a normal life again.

Here, I can only wish her all the best, and hope that she could bounce back quickly. If possible, I wish quietly & sincerely that someone deserving of her would steal her heart soon. Pray hard for you, HM.

Accountability.........

Mich~

Do you have this problem of getting someone to commit to certain matters, especially when the matter is pertaining to his area of specialisation?

For me, answer is yes! I cannot understand how is it that people are so wary of responsibility and accountability...

It usually happens in the office...when u need someone to help provide some information, or commit to an answer, the person is not able to do so. He would start answering your query in an irresolute manner, mentioning issues/matters in an evasive style. At the end of the day, the point is not being addressed, and everyone is kept in circles. Sometimes, I feel annoyed, when you are trying to get your work done, and nothing gets done.

I cannot understand why, doesnt holding a position in the office warrants accountability and responsibility? Obligation, power and authority...If not, why is that position created in the first place? Perhaps it has become an office "syndrome", when people around you starts behaving in a certain manner, you would follow suit, to avoid being the odd one out.

What is your take on this?

A day in office...monday blues

Tom~
Work just never seemed to end and it just keeps piling up day by day. Sick and tired at work, some of my colleagues are reported to be feverish and coughing, and employees could show up at work with flu and cold, potentially exposing other colleagues as well. Guess we would blame the bad haze, thanks to Indonesia. Sometimes, they don't have much of a choice, since the area is too huge to contain and control the risk.

I wonder if working is just for the sake for money or for a "Career" or is there really a "Career" out there for us? We are just living day by day, having rat races.

Some people are quite narrow-minded and they can't stand what cars people drive. And guess what, this group of people just go and scratch your car and cause damages to your wallet. Sometimes you get irritated when it comes to finding a parking space, and those people driving big cars will just take their own sweet time to park. Ironical thing is that they always find the cheapest parking, fighting with the normal Japanese saloon vehicles. What is this world coming to?

Blatantness

Mich~

The haze is back..pretty bad over these 2 days. Thus, weekend outings would be relegated to window shopping and hiding into malls to escape fr the stuffy and smoky air.

Had an enjoyable outing on Fri with my 2 friends, but our evening was somewhat spolit by selfish and inconsiderate people. Nonetheless, we left the night feeling perky over the string of updates which we had provided to one another.

Back to the selfishness of people that we witnessed...I recall I mentioned this in my earlier post, but this time, I cannot help but voice out my frustrations again....

We were enjoying our drinks and dessert at TCC in Bugis...

After our drinks and dessert were served, we indulged happily in them. I think we were excited over the topics which we were discussing, thus our pace in finishing the food were quickened. Thereafter, the unpleasantness took place......A short queue started forming outside the outlet, with a few impatient guys in the front of the queue. The waitress, on seeing that we were done with the dessert and drinks, hastily came over to clear the plate and glasses. And the guys kept staring in our direction. What were they trying to do? If they do not have the time and patience to wait, they could jolly well patronise another restaurant. Do they have to be so impertinent and kept staring at us?

I must say we were pretty annoyed...but we decided to stick our head on and continue with our conversation.

Much to our dismay, the waitress came over again, and ask if we wanted to order another drink. We politely declined, and then she asked if she could give us the bill!!!!! Isnt this blatantly telling us to leave? I stared at her when she was clearing our table, outrightly displayed my displeasure. In the end, we slowly took our time and left about 15 mins later. I must admit it was one way which we wanted to get back at her, for her blatantness...

For me, I will think thrice about patronising the same restaurant in future.

SJ: Yes, think they were overdoing it..din catch the waitress' name. I have a feeling she was discriminating us over the opposite sex? You think so? The whole purpose of a cafe is for people to relax, chill out and enjoy....But some people cannot seem to understand...

Frustrations..lamenting..

Mich~

Last week, everyone in office seemed to be in bad mood. People would snap easily, when certain topics were mentioned. Others, being more mild, would accept things readily, without a word of complaint. This sets me to think which category of people we belong to in the office. Are we the type who gripe when things do not go our way, or the kind who would live with obstacles, and make the best of of the situation?

On Fri, one colleague spent close to one hour bemoaning about things which she did but were not appreciated by others. I could empathise with her, because there would be times when you cannot reveal to someone about your true intention in executing an act. Pity pity, but that is part and parcel of interpersonal relations. Sometimes, it is not easy to manage these relationships in the office, esp when you have colleagues who would groan and whine....And the only way out for you would be to return the whining with a smile.

The other day, I was surfing STOMP website, looking at the photos taken by the public, and the majority of the pictures or stories were describing about inconsiderate acts of people, snapping the "ugly" side of human nature. Sigh, seemed that we cannot run away from airing our frustrations about scenes that we encountered. And people are getting more and more self-centered....is it true??

Tired tired.....

7 Oct....

Tom~
We attended Mich friend's church wedding on Sat, and gave the newly-wed couple our blessings and wishes. The church was nice, it was a nostalgic and historic church located at the heart of the city, somewhere along Tanglin. It was like those churches that you see in the movies, and the feeling was romantic and warm. It seemed as though you were back in time to the good olden days of America. Being there, you feel away from the bustling & hectic activities, and feel at ease and at peace with yourself. I think it would be nice to come here once in a while, to feel nature, and think about the actions and words you have done and said in the past. I like this feeling....Yup, will try to upload photos once I have time...:)
Thereafter, we went to Wah Lok at Carlton hotel for dinner, as it was meant to be my birthday celebration.

Indeed, the food was sumptous (award-winning), and would melt your heart and spice up your taste buds. Simply tantalising chinese fare...

In the night, we took a tour of Vivo City for a peep of the new look and decor, but a pity that not much shops were open for business. In the end, we spent about one hour walking aimlessly around the mall, not being able to find any shop which caught our eyes. I must say it was a bit disappointing, despite the huge publicity over the new hang-out place. The mega mall itself looks huge, there is also an outdoor area for viewing of the night view of sentosa. It would be nice to just stand there, feel the breeze and catch up with your close friends.

Running out of time

Mich~

There are just so much work to do in office, I really have no time..MYR, budget, etc.

And I need to spend time coaching others, hopefully I would be able to do a good job......

Sigh, life is pretty hectic, and there are errands to run during weekends....

I just attended my friend's wedding dinner last Sat, and to my pleasant surprise, I met friends whom I have not kept in touch for some time. We still talk like long-time friends, and as usual, we started complaining to one another about work, life, people...etc.

And two of my friends knew my office colleagues pretty well, so I started rattling off to them about the changes taking place in my office and the people around me... complaints..complaints..hehee..

And my friends share similar views about some people in my office..good or bad? one shall decide for oneself...hmmn....